Friday, 24 March 2017

Disgrace the disgrace that want to disgrace your grace

You know, the word ‘disgrace’ is a noun, but also a verb. Though it is taken to its extreme a noun more than a verb. The noun could be a state of (shame) or someone, and the verb is the action of the noun (person). That is the way it is discussed below


In regards to this, people refer others this way, ‘You are such a disgrace’, when actually such people been referred to are no disgrace. But this is just to put them off from happiness. Only few see this coming and push it back to its origin. On the other hand, you see yourself being belittled by the some soul-killers and heart-breakers who call you disgrace.


If you understand the opening statement of this writing, you will notice that before someone call another a disgrace, he or she must have been a disgrace. So you don’t get lowered for being called names you know nothing about. Just understand that such people who try to lower your status (whether originally lowered or not), are themselves lowered. They are the disgrace personified.


All you have to do is to first see them before they see you. How? By disgracing them. How can you disgrace them? By responding to them with a great deal of silence. Don’t talk back at them while you are somewhere making the best out of what you got. 


The above statements should not just be seen as ‘disgrace’, but also other soul-killing statements that could sweep anyone off his feet. Many have got their vision and plans shattered because someone (a disgrace) from somewhere (disgrace) disgraced them and they got automatically disgraced. Why? Don’t ever think any disgrace can just walk up to you and disgrace you with another disgrace. It could come inform of personal challenges, friends and foes – whosoever. Don’t get lowered.       


You made a mistake and someone tried to or disgraced you, and you gave in to it? That’s another mistake you’ve made. If you make any mistake, be sorry, apologize for it, be sincere with your remorseful realization and pray not to go back to such things; that’s the payment for mistakes (which are truly mistakes that are not beyond what the topic suggests).
Bear it in mind that everyone on earth has made a mistake ever in his or her lifetime. So don’t get tossed or kicked by some disgraces that would want to disgrace you. And if you have already been disgraced, retrace your grace and dismantle the DIS in the GRACE so that you focus on your pace. Remain strong with your life fixed firm where you stand and never lose hope.


Don’t forget to be positive minded always…

I hope this helps.
Thanks for reading.     

Monday, 6 March 2017

THIS IS REAL


                 TODAY IS ABOUT MOTIVATION


You know, there is something you probably don't know about yourself. You are two in appearance. One is the physical you, while the other is the reflective you (as your physical image reflects in the mirror). It works in such a way that the reflective you controls the physical you, and whatever decision taken by the latter affects the former. The latter deals with what goes in your mind and reflects through your action by the physical you. And this is to prove a point here.


If you always fail, it doesn’t mean you are a failure. If you always seem inferior, it doesn’t mean you are inferior, if you seem weak in all you do, it doesn’t mean you’re a weak person. It simply means that you have chosen to be like that in the reflective you, which controls your actions according to the decisions you make. And if only you can stand to your feet and speak to your reflection in the mirror, the physical you will hold you to be successful!


There is always a mystery about one speaking to himself, and many do not know this. You are the best thing that can happen to you, you are the best motivation to yourself and you have to understand that. Don’t let challenges kick you off the track, for they are what make you fit into the hard struggles to become great or greater. 


Imagine how pepper makes food taste good, even though it's hot. That's how challenges work in the life of everyone. No achievement without challenges; they are the lubricants that will enable you fit into the tight corners of greatness.     


Don’t be overwhelmed by the varieties of challenges you come across. Accept them and use them to your advantage. You see, always set your priority above your challenges, and go for the best. When you challenge your challenges, you get yourself at the forefront of overcoming the hard times that come your ways. 


Be positive in all you do. Don’t think you cannot do a thing or achieve it. Your greatness lies in your hands. Those who are great worked for it. And for those who want to be great, they must also work for it.


Let this little piece create a positive thought in you.

Ride on in what you do, don’t give up now, it’s too late.

All the best to you!  


Friday, 20 January 2017

THIS IS UNIMPRESSIVE AND MANY WILL NOT LIKE IT.

An eye-opener


Today, I want to talk about Makeup. Most people don’t get the definition of this term. They fix whatever comes to their mind in order to justify themselves. However, makeup, as the name suggests is clearly obvious to all without any complicated meaning or diplomatic reasons. Notwithstanding, it could be said to be cosmetics applied to the body (face), to improve or change one’s appearance.  This definition got something to say, which will be revealed soon.  In a practical sense, makeup as a word is a combination of two words – make + up. With this breakdown, no one need to tell another what the word means, even to a layman. And that is,

The act of creation.

In regards to this, to create itself can be seen as a synonym to the word make. On the other hand, the word up stands on its own –
To a higher degree.

That’s it. Obviously, those with a sense of insecurity will definitely debate on this, and paint it to be false whereas it’s true. This is just an eye-opener.
No one tells another to make up, not at all. Because almost everyone on earth, if not all make up. Now, let’s come down to the lowest point to exemplify what makeup is. Many would say, ‘I don’t make up…’ Well, from your answer, it shows that you still don’t understand the meaning of makeup. Or you may be correct that you don’t wear makeups. But it’s rare to see anyone who doesn’t.


First, I want you to know that makeup includes; body lotion, deodorant, powder, body spray, perfume and the like. However, these are those less considered as makeup. But they are really among the said. As such, it is but a few that can stand to testify that they don’t make up. Well, that’s by the way.

The question is,

How do you make up? 

What’s the nature of your makeup?

What are your reasons for making up?

What result do you get after your makeup up?

How does people around you react to your appearance? Etc.


 You see, makeup is of two types according to its definition in various dictionaries, which is –

An act done to IMPROVE the appearance of the body or to CHANGE it.
This takes us to another question; which is, Out of the two which one do you practice?


Is it to improve or to change? Oh! I have someone say, ‘it’s none of the above’, as he or she does it as a product of simply-applying without any motives. But that argument is not dependable. Everything is done with reasons.


Some people would always say that they wear powder because of their oily face. And the society surrounding such people would believe that powder controls pimples, which is acquired through oily face, as governed by the affected person’s hormones. And others would say that they wear perfume, deodorant, body spray to control the obvious nature of their body odour; or to smell good, as the society which governs them would have it. Another group of people believe that they wear body lotion to improve the nature of their skin. But that takes us to another question – what type of body lotion does one use? Is it a bleaching or refining one?  You know they answer.
The above recent could be pardoned if sincerely done as stated. Of course, those who practice them say that it’s just to improve, and not otherwise. Another question is, what of those that their aim isn’t to improve their body? For sure, it is to change it with some other delicate makeups. And that bring us to the meaning of change. Here are some 
synonyms of change – you can add more.
  1.     Renew
  2.     Refurbish
  3.     Renovate
  4.     Reconstruct
  5.     Transform
  6.     Convert
  7.     Exchange etc.
          

In spite of the above, it doesn’t end there. If you try to define these synonyms, or dig dip into the meaning of the word – change, you will discover that it is not far from fake, and not original. More so, you can agree that change in this regard isn’t far from plastic surgery, which is defined as –
The reconstruction of a part or even the whole of human body.
The tiny difference between them is, the former is done casually, while the latter is professionally – that’s all.


The argument is this. Those who make up for change abuse the worth of wearing makeups, seriously. And after they must have applied different paints on their faces, they look like some masquerades. They do this to change their appearance, and end up having a fake person on top of their original self. Well, of course, everyone owns him or herself. But the truth must be told. And that is, makeups for change isn’t worth it at all.


That’s why someone’s facial lock on mobile phone was difficult to reciprocate with the mobile phone. The truth is, the mobile phone knew that it couldn’t recognize the face anymore, as the one that had the license was not the same that attempted to unlock it – still it was one person.


As a result, if a mere mobile phone could recognize its owner’s made-up face, despite the higher intellectual sense it got (according to technology), how much more we human?

You may not understand this.

The reason you keep asking people if they recognize you, having seen that they find it difficult to, is because, your original face is hidden inside the fake one. So those people would stand there wondering where they have met the familiar face; whereas they are your relatives. What a sad experience, if it has happened to you before.


Another thing is, it looks disgusting. That’s true. Many will not tell you this due to the fact that they fear to lose you or they love to have you pleased all time. But they would go to your back and speak ill about your looks. It happens.

If you are ugly, you are ugly. And if you are beautiful, same goes for that. But I tell you, no one is ugly. The most beautiful queen to someone is another’s ugliest maid, and vice versa. That’s the way it works, it’s natural and no one can change it.
These are some of the things inappropriate makeup cause:


It deprives many their life partners: Not everyone will like to have such a life partner that have him or herself painted like a work of an artist or painter. And those who pretend to like them are those whose eyes are closed. When they get to know that you wear a fake face, they start to hate you. It has caused problems in many homes.


People avoid your presence without making it obvious: because you irritate them.


You see yourself live in a community that never exist; the spirit of makeup gets into you, and let you understand that the more you make up, the less beautiful you become. As such, you graduate from casual to professional makeup, where you have to pay professionals to mold you from what God has done into something that you probably think God should have done – maybe you are perfect.


Living a life of fantasy; this makes anyone live a fake life. This means that you wouldn’t let your distanced friends see you when you are not made-up, in that you’ve been nurtured to live like that, and wouldn’t know how to avoid or stop it. So it would be a bad day for you if they meet the original you. But the question is this, how long will you keep living like that?


Check on those who don’t make up. They don’t have anything to bother. They tell themselves the truth. They are natural, and smile to that. No every-minute-mirror, to check whether the makeup has worn-out or not, for another to be applied. Life for them is free and easy. And they make the best beautiful faces, because they have no cosmetic side effects on their skin.


Haven’t you seen a 50 year old person look like a 95? That’s the job of overdue makeup. It has bad sides. Watch well. Keep it at a minimal rate, if at all you should apply it. But prevention is better than cure, they say is true. Start now to tell people who the original you is, before the evil days comes. You wouldn’t know that you are using your money to finance your funeral, until it happens. Take precaution, and stay as you are. Don’t try to correct God, or tell Him that He’s ugly. Because He made you in His image. And for those who don’t believe; watch your back, for those who don’t are died while they live.


You are beautiful the way you are.

Moreover this skin you are fighting to change is vanity. Eternal life is much more important.

It’s not an abuse, it’s not a fight. But an eye-opener – telling you the simple truth.  

I hope you repent, and it helps!                        


Friday, 13 January 2017

What if your role model isn’t Who you think he or she is?


Many people will not like this. And by chance, you may not like it as well. But it got something to say, which has not been considered ever. 

Most people would always say that they have one or more role models, who guide them in the areas where they find them attractive. This is a subconscious process though.  Well, that’s good. But you must understand that having a role model as to having an intimate attachment with the said person is dangerous. It is better to have intimate likeness towards the qualities, rather than the person himself – yes, rather than the person.  I will tell you the reason for this.

By definition, role model is simply someone worthy of emulation.


But before proceeding, here comes a very snappy story that falls between the lines.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, a famous Nigerian author discloses in the Humanizing History discussion the reason she doesn’t like people to take her to heart as a role model. According to her, she resists those kind of role model things, having seen youngsters who work up to her to congratulate her, and wish to be a writer because of her. She said this in that a woman in Lagos sent her a mail telling her how her daughter looks up to her. As such, she shouldn’t write about SEX in her next story, probably she’s not being a good role model to her daughter. It didn’t just end there. She goes on and suggests the condition in which the author should do her own works in case of next time.


In this regard, she – the author chose to write what she loves, having the notion that there are people who also care about what she love to write. And in most cases, everyone mustn’t like it. So what is the fate of those who call her their role model? 


In regards to the above, many people love their role models beyond limit. And are able to die for them if the chance be. You see, loving a role model should be as one would love anyone around him or her. But going beyond limit is dangerous, as stated earlier. The best thing to do is to love their good attributes as you would extremely hate anyone’s attitude – not the person. That is the way it should be because, if you love them beyond going back when any contrasted issues is announced against them, you will definitely hate them beyond forgiveness. Hence, the qualities and attributes are to be loved, so that if to hate arises, it wouldn’t be on the role model, but the role itself.


This has put many in a state where they are unable to decipher reality from fantasy, accusation, falsehood, and facts. Why? Because most cases whom they think their role model is isn’t who he or she true is. That is why everyone got to be very careful when dealing with a role model. In that case, you will even hate yourself for falling in love with such person at the first place, or raise abuses and insults that shouldn’t come from anyone.


The world is very vast, and has thousand different communities squeezed into one – and called the globe. The day you will hear that your role model is the opposite of what you wouldn’t imagine, don’t be surprised. That’s it for you, and it does happen. Notwithstanding, a false allegation could be raised against such person, and if the society recognize it as true, it would be difficult to convince them that it’s false. And by so doing, you are termed a cohort to the affected role model, which you might have no chances of meeting him or her ever since you are born. Isn’t that funny?    


Therefore, the choice is yours, to whom you tag my role model with extreme love. However, you must know that no one asks you to hate or abhor your role model – for that’s a bad idea. And no one will love the roles of another without liking the model himself.

This is to create a good relationship in the world, both great and small.
Choose wisely.


But remember, this article is a product of a question – If you get to know that your role model isn’t whom you think he or she is, what will you do?

Tuesday, 10 January 2017

HAVE YOU ASKED YOURSELF THIS – ‘AM I REALLY IN 2017 OR STILL IN 2016?


Being in new times does not have anything to do with change as to climatic condition, weather forecast, the colour of the environment, name of people, situations and so on. The calendar does not change in its order of days and months. January to December, and Sunday to Saturday remains the same.

If you look closely, you’ll agree that there are no changes at all, regarding the above stated. And that’s how it’s going to be in this 2017. The only thing that changes is the situation of man – either from good to better or from bad to worst. It depends on where you fall.

Things seem not to change or progress for some people, and that is why they are not moved when a new year approaches. If you ask, they will tell you that they are not interested in celebrating a new year – life is always stagnant in most of the things they do. Well, they are and are also not to be blamed.

HOW?

They are not to be blamed in that ‘ignorance’ as a tool of excuse is applied. Many are ignorant of the codes applied in order to attain greater heights in a new year. But the forgiveness that is attached to this is limited. So, one should take care of this.
On the other hand,   

They are to be blamed because, they have not taken time to acquire the foresight those who succeed have. They for grant certain things that propel anyone to celebrate a new year – they are not bothered to fight their ignorance, and such makes anyone remain in the last year, while others are in the new one.  And if they don’t understand this and put it right, a new year will not mean anything to them.    

That is why one MUST ask him or herself this question – if he or she is still in 2016.
To be sure one is in 2017, one must see every New Year in these perspective. And it takes awareness to follow these up.


Every second is new;
In as much as no one can predict the event of the next second or minute, as the case maybe – in that anything can happen any time, it is also important to understand that every new year got packages – wonderful packages to offer those who want to have them, by utilizing the opportunity at hand. As such, have it at the back of your mind that starting a new year, you have to expect your own package. It is necessary, and should come to everyone. It is only those who are ignorant miss the opportunities, as it is only those who are informed can pursue that which they are aware of. So be aware of this. It works only when one is fully sure about having fully understand how it works, not to think that it may be true or not. Understand that if things are bad yesterday, they can be good today, or in the nearest future.



Questions you’ve never considered.
Have you ever asked the reason why people are blessed every year? Surly, some people are and must be blessed every year. And this cannot stop. It is a continuous process. And another question is – have you asked why your own blessings don’t come when you expect things that never come to you? That’s it. That’s to show you that the first point above is real – there is always a package for everyone. Haven’t you also noticed that some of those who were poor last year are rich this year? This speaks for genuine richness, not otherwise. However, there are still those who remain stagnant. But why? This question must be fixed to proceed to the next point.



Sacrifice:
One cannot enjoy a new year without sacrificing for it, as nothing good comes easily. And inasmuch as the package is sure, one must consider the fact that he or she must work to pay for it. To see that you don’t remain in last year, you have to sacrifice those thing that should be, if you didn’t do them last year, and/or put more effort in the sacrifices you’ve already done in order to ride to a greater height. Because, most times, the sacrifices people make are not enough. And little or no sacrifices, cannot take one to where he needs to be. Hence, do something positively acknowledged to get your reward.



Don’t be desperate:
Some people think that being desperate heightens the level of one’s dedication. It’s not true. Anything that comes as a result of desperateness isn’t what you think it is. Gradual process is the key. Nothing good comes as a product of magic or shortcuts. Those takes one back to square one when they can no longer hold what they hold. So you have to take it easy – but perseverance and a dedicated heart is surely the way.



Propel your knowledge, wisdom, skills, acquisition and strength into activation:
Many have all these without having the knowledge. There are strong men out there who don’t even know they are strong. Because, they’ve not engaged in a fight before. How can one know whether or not he or she is a good fighter without fighting? It’s not possible. That’s the problem many face today. Thousands of people out there have knowledge of one thing or the other – they are wise, they have good skills, and the like but still remain stagnant. This is pathetic. No one’s head is a coconut. Everyone got something upstairs. Why not try what you are good at, and focus there, than waiting for manna to fall from heaven?
Now, to help yourself out in what you are good at is by this;

If you want to know what you are good at, it’s that thing you cherish in other people. Psychologically, people always admire what they have chances to be good at, without even knowing. For example, most fans of dancers may, in most cases know how to dance; some fans of musician are good singer – so it is applied to other things. This is a secret not known to all. It is only when you try it out, you see that you are good at it. Another thing is those things you love at childhood. If you ask most writers when they started writing, majority will tell you that it’s what they started at childhood. It happens in such a way that they will see themselves creative with letters – that’s in the early stage of childhood. Gradually, they become inquisitive about difficult words, from there they go into emulating other writers, having fallen in love with reading, and eventually end up becoming a writer –

This happened to me, and now, I’m a published writer – if I didn’t try writing, I wouldn’t have known that I could write. You can try yours too.



Take authority over the days.
Do you know that you can make your days be as you want it? Yes, it’s possible. You can direct your days, and turn them to your favour – except for inevitabilities – they are an exception, but does not occur often. One can decide to take notes of what he or she want to achieve in a day, and hit all or almost all before the day runs down. It works. It takes only personal culture and discipline. You have to discipline yourself to get things achieved. If you are a type that postpone, compromise or toy with things, you hardly make your year a better one. So plan the year well, take authority over it, and work towards your plans with a disciplined heart to achieve your goal.



I will not forget to tell you this.
No matter what you do, if you don’t pray sincerely and fervently, things will not be the way you want them to be. Surely, people hardly make it without being closer to God. That’s the truth I must not forget to tell you. If I don’t, I haven’t written anything. There are unseen forces against every great steps anyone makes. For that, prayer is what is keeping many going. So, if you’re not in a good relationship with God, better fix things, and see for yourself how great you’ll become.
I know that some will say – ‘I’m not closer to any God, but I’m making it’. Yes, you may be making it now, but it will not always be as you expect it to be, as anything can kick you off track – because you are alone.  And for those who does not believe in the existence of God – I advice you to watch your back – those who don’t are already dead while they live.  


This is to create a better future, and help people recognize their stand in 2017, and upcoming years ahead.      
Have a wonderful new year with great achievements


I hope this helps.